The Courage to Be Disliked
Finished reading: The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi 📚
Some of my fav bits of wisdom from the book:
You’re the only one worrying about your appearance
Philosopher: Earlier didn’t your say, “I can’t celebrate other people’s happiness with all my heart'? You think of interpersonal relationships as competition; you perceive other people’s happiness as ‘my defeat’ and that is why you can’t celebrate it.
Overcoming the tasks that face you in life
Philosopher: The interpersonal relationships that a single individual has no choice but to confront when attempting to live as a social being - these are the life tasks. They are indeed tasks in the sense that one has no choice but to confront them. Philosopher: First, let’s look at the tasks of work. Interpersonal relationships of work have the easy-to-understand common objective of obtaining good results, so people can cooperate even if they don’t always get along, and to some extent they have not choice but to cooperate. And as long as a relationship if formed solely on the basis of work, it will go back to being a relationship with an outsider when working hours are over or one changes jobs.
How to separate tasks
Philosopher: One does not intrude on other people’s tasks. That’s all. Youth: Hmm. I don’t really get it. In the first place, how can you tell whose task it is? Philosopher: There is a simple way to tell whose task it is. Think, Who ultimately is going to receive the end result brought about by the choice that is made?